To hopefully break the ice, and get them to be more willing to give you information, let them know exactly who you are right away, and how you are related to them. Also make sure you can give their parents', and at least grandparents' names, and further if possible. Then tell them your line, and exactly how that line fits into their family tree, so they know it's not a scam. 😉
Follow more descendancy research tips below, and other research tips in Genealogy Research Tips.
Rule #1 of Finding Living Descendants in Your Family Tree
Rule #2 of Finding Living Descendants in Your Family Tree
Rule #3 of Finding Living Descendants in Your Family Tree
Step #1 After You've Found a Living Descendant
Step #3 After You've Found a Living Descendant
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